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- Jenny Jen

When To Get A Dog Together

It's one month into your relationship. You are spending every single solitary minute with one another, other than when you're both at work. You can't remember ever spending - or even wanting to spend - this much time with another person. You can't seem to get enough of each other. You leave his place in the morning, only to hear from him ten minutes later, anxious to book you in for after work. As if there's even a question. Butterflies are dancing in your stomach and you both are bouncing off one anothers interest, enthusiasm and energy. And it's no wonder, we all want to be loved and appreciated and to feel good about ourselves. This other persons interest almost reaffirms to you that you are loveable. And the fact that you are both on the same page, well that's just the icing on the cake.

The two of you can't help but plan for all the future outings you want to take, things you want to do. He suggests bringing you up to his cottage, and you suggest bringing him along to a friends engagement party. And just when you think you might be rushing things, you realize it doesn't matter one bit because this mutual interest is all the confirmation you need. You've never been happier and you can't ever imagine not being with this person again.

Which is why, when he suggests you both get a dog together, you likely want to say yes. You might pick the breed, you might agree on a name, you might be won over by the fact that this man's man of a guy will let you call the shots and give in to you wanting a 'bitch dog,' but be weary. The only one thing we know that remains consistent is change. Before you take action, give yourselves time to live in the present and not make any drastic decisions so early on, especially one that binds you two together.

We often mistake a mans agreement as a sign that he'll never leave us, that we'll always get what we want, and that he's able to meet our needs, but we are likely just as accommodating at the start of a new relationship as well. The start being the first six months (no matter how many days and endless hours and weekends you spend cacooned together.) Before you involve a live being into the mix, make sure you two can navigate together without another distraction. A dog isn't a prop.

- Jenny Jen

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Creating Traditions

Growing up, my mom made much of a celebration out of holidays. Balloons, banners, candies, you name it. Her passion for life and interest in those special days, is what made my childhood one that was filled with constant happy moments. Instead of fretting at the end of a great day, I knew my mom had many more in store for me and my siblings to look forward to. So it's no wonder that aside from my birthday, my two favourite days are valentines day (go figure) and halloween.

But old traditions need not die hard. Having something to look forward to makes many of us hopeful on days where we feel anything but. So how about you create some new traditions? If this is your first halloween with your other half, why not set out a special halloween tradition for you to carry on over the years? By engaging in traditions with our partners, we in turn bond with them. Many of us get wrapped up with work and other responsibilities, often pushing aside days that deserve to be celebrated. Anniversary's and birthdays are a given, but getting involved in other more childish and fun holiday's will really add a different zest to your relationship. Remember, how you are at the beginning of a relationship sets the tone of what is to follow. Now is the perfect time create a memory.

Some ideas:

- host an annual costume party
- go pumpkin picking at a pumpkin patch (and not at your local grocers) and carve your pumpkins together
- bake a special pumpkin pie and meal that you will always have on this day each year
- dress up in a couples costume and take your - or his - nieces and nephews trick or treating
- decorate your place together with halloween themed garb
- invite both of your parents over for some fall-themed drinks and to hand out candy to the little ones in your area

A holiday is a great day to start a new tradition. Many of us let our days pass us by. We get wrapped up in our work and our lives and don't make time for life's little pleasures with those who mean the most to us. Awareness is the first step towards change, so, what are you waiting for?

Happy Halloween!

- Jenny Jen

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